7 Life Lessons For Your 20s, 30s, and More — From Someone With Grey Hair

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Ash Jurberg
5 min readApr 21, 2021


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Articles with life lessons are popular and overdone. Very overdone. You know the ones.

Things I wished I knew in my 20’s. 30 Lessons I learned at 30. What I would tell my 6-month-old self (not a lot, presumably, unless you are a 6-month-old genius).

I’ll admit some of them have great life lessons. But what they don’t have is life experience. I don’t want to add to the cavalcade of life lesson listicles, but I have grey hair, and that only comes from making mistakes in life and learning from them. Well, except if you are George Clooney. His grey hair is just part of his brand — and probably too much Nespresso.

So this is my advice to anyone currently younger and with less grey hair than me, which is a damn lot of you.

1. You don’t ever have to know what you want to be when you grow up

When I was in elementary school, I wanted to be a footballer. And a writer. In high school, I wanted to be a stockbroker. After college, I wanted to be a sports agent.

I had lots of jobs. I started my own business (twice). I tried lots of different jobs. It was only when COVID hit and I was forced to pivot I found my true calling. Ironically it was the same calling I had in elementary school.


No, it actually was to be a writer. If I could take more than forty years to work out what I wanted to be when I grow up, so can you. You will bounce around jobs and industries many times — some jobs you’ll hate, some you’ll love. If you find the right job that you are passionate about when you are young fantastic. If not, try something new.


Don’t stress about what you want to be when you grow up. You have until your last breath to decide.

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Ash Jurberg

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